Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Actually Moving Isn't So Bad

Turns out there's something a whole lot worse than moving. Not Moving. Yes, that's right, at this point I'd rather be moving.

Our Escrow keeps on getting extended. I'm not sure if that's the right way to put it, but it's what's happening. Every week, they tell us "Escrow will close next Tuesday," and then Tuesday comes around and the thing is not closing. Oh no, *next* Tuesday. Oh sorry, it's going to have to be pushed back to the Tuesday after that.

I've cancelled three weeks of piano lessons so far, I've missed two voice lessons of my own, my husband has already taken his week off to move two weeks ago, and every day, we get closer to The Big Day of my girls' entire lives - Halloween. And guess what? My sewing stuff is still packed away, I still have no place to sew, and the costumes are not made. I was supposed to have time to make them after moving, on the 10th of this month.

So, as of now, our escrow is supposed to close on Tuesday (I've heard that one before), our U-Haul has been rebooked for the third time, and we're moving in 9 days.

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Moving Stinks

Well, not moving, particularly. Actually, I love starting over in a brand new place. I suppose it's the optimistic and unrealistic side of me that says "if I can just start fresh, this time I'll do everything right." Setting up house is wonderful, and the feeling of not being trapped by what's already there is right up there with coming out of confession.

What really stinks is packing. especialy when you're a pack rat. Or rather, when other people in your house are pack rats. And if you're lazy on top of that, things can get pretty hot.

"Why don't we just throw all our stuff away? It's much easier than sorting and boxing."

"Why would you want to throw away this box of unmatched socks that have been unmatched for our last three houses? They're perfectly good socks!"

And so on.

Now I need to turn this into a list. Things that make packing a spritually humbling experience:

1. Realizing how much junk you actually have

2. Realizing how junky the stuff is that you actually like

3. Trying to seperate your good stuff from bad stuff without being overwhelmed

4. Unearthing embarassing old letters to which you once had a sentimental attachment

5. Finding the true extent of the dirt and grime that has survived in your house in spite of your housekeeping efforts

Basically, packing reveals one's own materiality, one's insufficiency as a housekeeper, the worst of one's sentimentality, and an obstinate inability to let go. That's a lot to chew on, especially under the pressure cooker of getting everything done in time.

Of course, if your moving experience is anything like mine is currently, "on time" keeps getting further and further away. because banks are run by Satan. I thought about praying to the patron saint of banks, but then, since they are pure evil, I figure that there is probably only a Patron Saint of People Who Have the Misfortune to Have To Deal With Banks.

Monday, October 16, 2006

Inspired by Children's Books

So, my aunt (hee hee) has inspired me to make a list of the books I remember best from childhood, and the lessons they taught me. I'll see if I can link to them as well - I wonder how many of these books anyone will recognize...

1. Socks for Supper by Jack Kent - An old couple who has eaten nothing but turnips for a long time begin trading socks for milk and cheese with a young couple who has a cow - and no apparent need for socks. The old woman gets the yarn by unravelling the old man's sweater - and the young woman uses the knitted socks to knit a sweater for *her* husband. In the end, the young woman's sweater is too big for her husband, so she gives it to the old man for Christmas, having noticed that he didn't have one anymore.

What's the lesson? Generosity without condescension is inspiring. The young couple doesn't need socks, but they don't give the milk and cheese away for free. They accept the old couple's paymeny of socks, so that the young woman can do something nice for her husband. In the end, the old couple gets the milk and cheese for free, since all their yarn is returned to them, and there's something deeply satisfying about the way it all works out.

2. The Simple Prince, by Jane Yolen, illustrated by Jack Kent - A Prince is tired and bored with the life of luxury. He heads off to a farmer's cottage, in search of the Simple Life, and finds that it takes more work than he is prepared for just to get butter, bread and tea - he has to churn the butter, cut wood for the fire, knead the bread dough, draw water for the tea, and so on, until he is so exhausted that he falls asleep. Upon waking, he runs away, back to the waiting arms of his servants, whom he now treats with respect and politeness. He never does get to eat the bread, butter and tea that he made.

What's the lesson? Simplicity is Work. Complexity in life is the result of too much leisure time. Well, OK, I'm cheating here. that's the lesson I'm getting out of it now. When I was a kid, the lesson was about gratitude to people who did your work for you. So I was sure to say thank you to my mother when I noticed her making my life easier, but somehow, I think that wasn't really the point of the book, since I still expected my mother to do everything for me.

3. Piggy Bank Gonzalez, also by Jack Kent - A piggy bank tires of his boring existence, and hits the road with a group of mariachi pigs, only to have them take advantage of his wealth and leave him to take the blame when they're out of money.

Simple lesson here - pigs are evil.

4. But No Elephants - A hard-working grandma type lady is conned by a slick talking pet salesman into buying numerous pets that turn out to be helpful. She manages to hold off on the elephant, not seeing any way that it could be useful, but the pet salesman leaves it outside her door to starve and freeze. She eventually takes it in, where is eats all her food, and puts the whole crew in danger of starving and freezing to death in the long winter - until the elephant carries the whole house on his back to a warmer climate where they all live happily ever after.

What's the lesson? Move to California.

I'm drawing a blank on more stories I read as a child. I moved pretty quickly on to longer books that were more entertaining than edifying. When it comes down to it, it looks like the lesson I applied most completely to my life was the last one.